I have noticed a common pattern among some people that often leads to the end of their relationships. Recently, while spending time with a close friend of mine by the seaside that night, I saw the same pattern in him. Seems like the cause of many failed relationships lies in the fear of openly communicating one’s true feelings about certain matters. Folks, when we hide our negative emotions and allow them to pile up over time, the resulting frustration can lead to rash decisions that harm the relationship until there’s no love left in it to continue it any further because now you’re left with hate.

Perhaps it would be more beneficial to approach relationships from a new perspective. Instead of viewing it solely as a source of amusement, like a theme park, consider it your peace, the place where you can be calm and be understood. This way, if you hide your emotions and thoughts, you jeopardize the peace within the relationship and because if you refuse to discuss your thoughts, your partner won’t understand you. As a result, you’ll always be misunderstood. Now you see why this perspective is important?

I also feel that many folks tend to place too many expectations on their partners without actually discussing these matters with them. Instead, they confide in friends, as my friend did that night with me. Personally, I have learned not to burden the person I’m dating with expectations because it rarely leads to positive outcomes. In fact, it very often causes unnecessary stress for the girl (and it also goes vice-versa). The truth is, when someone truly loves you, those expectations are met without being asked for. I mean, you don’t have to tell someone who loves you to take care of you when you’re down, right? Because that’s what we are programmed to do naturally for those whom we love. Instead, be wiser when choosing partners to avoid disastrous situations.