The best advice I receive are always from folks who have a backup source. Typically, that person is a reader. Nothing is worse than seeing someone who never reads a book giving poor advice to others. When I refer to readers, I’m not referring to fiction here. I’m talking about self-help books written by psychologists, therapists and philosophers. If someone doesn’t read such books, they will lack a scientific and logical understanding of their own mind and body. How can you provide advice to others when you don’t even have a clear understanding of yourself? Astrology and spirituality? That’s for stupid people.
There is absolutely zero scientific evidence supporting astrology. No, just because you’re a Leo or an Aries doesn’t mean your personality will align with whatever bullshit astrology claims. The truth is, everyone has the potential to change, including personality and even temper. Back in high school, I used to rage a lot and get into fights often. I even dropped out of high school, but now I’m a pretty good software engineer and even got recommendation letter from engineering director where I used to work at. I can even peacefully deal with extremely backstabbing toxic people when I want to, lmfao! Anyway, we all can change. Don’t let anyone tell you that you lost. If you feel stuck, it often just takes a bit of gentle help, but change is indeed scientifically possible. Habits can be built and new goals can be made.
“…people can speed up the process of personality change by making intentional tweaks to their thinking and behavior. These tweaks can lead to meaningful change in less than 20 weeks, instead of 20 years.”
Dr. Sauer-Zavala | Licensed Clinical Psychologist
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Remember, you’re changing yourself FOR yourself, not for your partner. They should accept you for who you are because you’re not a robot that needs to be programmed to suit their needs. While it’s true that sometimes we may need to adapt for our partners, there should always be a limit to those changes. Ultimately, you are the one who decides where that limit lies, not them. The purpose in life is not just to be someone’s significant other. There’s more to life than that!
In the coming year, I plan to turn my blog into a platform for book reviews so that more people can discover the valuable resources available out there. Everyone can have their problems fixed. I’m not talking about being the best person on earth, but just the best version of yourself. The greatest tragedy in life isn’t death, it’s what dies inside you while you’re still alive. Don’t spend the rest of your life with a loser mindset. Be a champ!